Cubicle Bullies

Feb 23

Cubicle bully no backgroundWe sit in our cubicles – crowded and close,
Ten of us here and most quite verbose.
Most are quite helpful – one’s rude as can be,
Obnoxious and nasty – when talking to me.
 
So I went to my boss after trying my luck,
Confronting this issue – and stopping this schmuck.
This bullying problem- covert around here,
Is killing my spirit and spreading more fear.
 
But my boss as a leader, or lack of he is,
Ignored my request saying, “Get back to biz!”
“Oh it can’t be that bad, your skin’s way too thin,”
And with that I gave up – and retreated within.
 
Now my cubicle bully – a smirk on her face,
Harasses and teases, at will without grace.
She never gets busted – I’m so uninspired,
I’ll do less ‘round here – might even get fired.
 
I came here to work and answer my calling,
But leadership here is weak and appalling.
With my boss playing chicken, a bully in my face,
I’ll just put in my time… ‘till I’m out of this place!

 

Image Above: Courtesy Elliot Dahl Designs – ElliotDahl.com. Image Below: Nikita Krushchev – Russian Dictator. Courtesy of Wikipedia. Who’s dictating at your company? Who uses fear in your organization to get his/her way?

Isn’t it quite amazing that in this world of high technology, communication training and a deeper understanding of what makes a business successful that we still allow fear and intimidation to fester unchecked in many organizations? Isn’t it mind blowing that bosses, peers, and others can say and do things to other people that are beyond rude and obnoxious and yet they are allowed to get by with it? What is the cost to an organization that allows abusive behaviors to continue? It’s enormous. Beyond dollars and cents, little things like brand, culture, and reputation Nikita_S._Chruschtschoware tarnished.

More importantly, those employees who came into the organization with passion and enthusiasm suddenly find themselves being just the opposite. Biding their time until a better job comes along or worse yet, resigning themselves, collecting a paycheck, and saying the hell with caring about the quality of work, the importance of their position or the well-being of their company.

Bottom line, fear works. Ask Hitler. Ask Castro. Ask Krushchev. Fear motivates people while the the gun is pointed. Drop the weapon for a minute and you better not turn your back. There is little creativity nor loyalty when fear is present. How does your organization foster open and honest communication when their is fear? Does it matter? Having worked in environments where fear and intimidation runs rampant, I have seen the toll on the human spirit, the personal health of employees and the cost to those invested in the success of the company.

Whether it’s an asshole of a boss or an intimidating co-worker, it’s costing the individual, the business and our society a very high price. What price are you willing to pay – whether you’re an employee or the employer? What can you do? What will you do? If you’re an employer, do you really know who uses fear and intimidation to motivate the troops? You might be surprised. Those who use fear are master manipulators and have learned to put on a friendly face as needed.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Steve

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The Colors Bleed

Feb 21

 
Angels in Orange and Pink by PaulaThe brushes start,
The oils begin,
The painting knows,
The pain within.
 
 
The colors bleed,
The pigment weeps,
The strokes forgive,
The subject seeks.
 
 
The frame relieves,
The canvas feels,
The painting done,
The subject heals.

 

How do you heal through art?

This poetic idea was inspired by Tara Smith, the deputy director of the Oceanside Museum of Art after she shared with me some of her amazing photo-realistic paintings from her cell phone at a meeting we were both attending. She told me how her artwork is often healing for the subjects she paints. Learn more about Tara Smith at www.tarasmithart.com and the museum at www.oma-online.org.

Image credit: Check out Paula Majeski’s amazing angel art at www.paulamajeski.com.

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A Muslim, a Jew and a Catholic Walk Into a Bar…

Feb 17

Muslim jew catholic symbols

A Muslim, a Jew, and a Catholic – walk into a bar,
Oh, the jokes we could tell – if we dare go that far!
 
Could they laugh at themselves? As they fight over God?
Could they sit with each other – or is that way too odd?
 
If a Muslim, a Jew, and a Catholic – sat down for a drink,
Would a bar fight break out? Would it make you re-think?
 
Would this make you re-think who was right and was wrong?
What if they came out, holding hands, singing song?
 
A Muslim, a Jew and a Catholic, while sitting face to face,
Noticed they were not so different, as had once seemed the case.
 
They all had their problems, they all had their joys,
They loved laughing and playing, as young girls and boys.
 
A Muslim, a Jew, and a Catholic – soon gave up their fight,
To see who was better, and most often right.
 
They concluded “life’s precious” and there’s so little time,
They decided to change, be accepting and kind.
 
A Muslim, a Jew, and a Catholic, just talked for a while,
And their God shed a tear, and he started to smile.
 
 
 
 
Image courtesy of http://www.worldslastchance.com
 
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My Dragon’s Warm Embrace – In memory of Philip Seymour Hoffman

Feb 10

I love the way he holds me,
We all have our dragons.
We all have our dragons. Philip Seymour Hoffman had his.
My dragon’s warm embrace,
I love his wild illusions,
I love his calming face.
 
I hate this love I’m feeling,
Addictions hold me tight,
I hide inside my body,
I cannot see the light.
 
And when I try to leave him,
His eyes as cold as steel,
He lets me shake and tremble,
Ignoring my appeal.
 
I’d love to slay this dragon,
To choke his every breath,
While drinking one more bottle,
Or tripping on my meth.
 
But drugs are just the symbols,
Of troubles deep inside,
They simply fuel the turmoil,
Of things I’d like to hide.
 
This hell will soon be over,
My secret’s come to pass,
Just one more shot or needle,
I’m sure this is my last.
 
 
Photo courtesy NY Daily News 
 
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