How Thoughts Form the World

May 24

Wright Brothers flight

Wright Brothers Thought About Flying – a Lot. Image Courtesy Wikipedia

 
As Edison envisioned, a world shining bright,
Alexander Bell heard it, ringing that night.
 
Pharaohs thought of pyramids, rising up from sands,
Lincoln thought of freedom, for every single man.
 
Kennedy thought of footprints, on the moon up above,
That’s how Gandhi thought it, he fought with his love.
 
Mandela thought of freedom, from his cold island cell,
Reverend King – thought it in a dream he spoke well.
 
As the Wright brothers thought it, some said they’re insane,
And they proved them all wrong – turning thoughts into plane.
 
That’s how Jobs thought it, seeing Apples in your hand,
Our futures are thoughts; they’re not exactly planned.
 
It’s not thoughts so little, or thoughts unbeknown,
It’s not common logic, of wise men all alone.
 
It’s not government action, nor following the norm,
It’s simply universal law, using thoughts to trans-form!
 
So, think highly of your thinking, and the thoughts in your mind,
Think bigger with your thoughts, and what you’ll leave behind.
 
Limits don’t apply here, where futures are born,
Your thoughts change the world, since thoughts become form.
 

© Copyright Steve Dahl 2013

What will your thoughts create today? The choice is yours. While working on my Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology at the University of Santa Monica,  I learned a powerful process called, “Ideal Scenes.” It is simply the process of writing out your vision for what you want to have in your life. You do so by completing the sentence… “I Am…”

Putting everything into present tense and focusing on what you DO want versus what you don’t, is a very empowering way to use your thoughts to create the world you want. Learn more about USM at http://www.universityofsantamonica.edu/ 

 

 

 
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Bad Things Will Happen

Apr 24

Bad things will happen,
They happen all the time,
But let’s look for the good,
At least for this rhyme.
 
Bad things are teachers,
Brutal though they be,
They show up as lessons,
Customized for me.
 
Now you can poo-poo,Slipping on floor
These things that cause strife,
And try to ignore,
These calamities of life.
 
Or you could deny them,
As long as you can,
And suffer in silence,
On the de-nial plan.
 
But bad things still happen,
Can’t hide in your room,
You cannot avoid them,
No one is immune.
 
Since bad things are lessons,
Just try to complete them,
And learn what you can,
Or you’ll have to repeat them! 
 
Dang! Why is it that lessons often have to be so painful? But then again, why is it that we sometimes keep repeating even the most painful of lessons? What lessons have you been learning lately that you might recognize from the past? When will you complete the course and move on?  When we don’t learn our lessons and continue to repeat them, some would call that suffering.
 
And, I don’t remember exactly who said it, but it is very, very true. Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. Of course, learning doesn’t have to come in bad packages, those are just the ones we notice. They are the ones that bloggers write about. They are the ones that often repeat themselves because the painless ones were, well painless. If that wasn’t profound, I don’t know what is. 
 
Have a glorious and pain-free day! 
 
Steve
 
 
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Don’t Give Him Too Many Chores!

Apr 23

I’m not really lazy,
So why should I try,Boy Doing Chores
My mother will do it,
If I just fuss and I cry.
 
My parents are the greatest,
And this I can tell,
They do all of my chores,
And I know they mean well.
 
But the chores that I’m missing,
Teach skills I could use,
When I’m off on my own,
I’ll have much more to lose.
 
I won’t try solving problems,
With wisdom and grace,
And I’ll likely leave stockings,
All over the place!
 
And I’ll have to find someone,
To get me to work,
Woman thinkingAnd I’ll often be late,
Boy my boss is a jerk!
 
And I’ll ruin my credit,
Cause my bills won’t get paid,
And dishes won’t be done,
‘Till I find me a maid.
 
I won’t know how to manage,
My time or my life,
Hey, I’ve got an idea…
 

I’ll get me a wife!

 
Yeah! I’ll find me a woman,
Where my mother once stood,
And I’ll have her do chores,
Like a good woman should!

 
I will get me a woman,
Who loves doing chores,
And she’ll make us some babies,

Glamour portrait in blue sunglassesWhen she’s not washing floors! 

That’s my future sweet parents,
So thanks Mom and Dad,
There’s no chores in my future,
But you shouldn’t feel bad.
 
You have let me off easy,
From that chore list of life,
But – could you make me a copy,
I can give to my wife?
 

 

Ohhhhh baby! Now this is no doubt going to irritate a few! But, hey, that’s my job on my blog so go tell a hog. Okay, all seriousness aside. The huge issue we have in America, just one of them anyway, is called “Overindulgence.” It’s when we simply allow too much, buy too much and do too much for our children. The reality is, as a parent you only have one primary job in addition to keeping your kids safe. And that is, being their teacher. But not like the classroom, not by home schooling, none of that.

Dr. Jean Illsley Clarke, author of "How Much is Too Much."

Dr. Jean Illsley Clarke, author of “How Much is Too Much.”

Everything we do as parents should be to help our children learn something. So, that’s why we let them learn to do their own laundry. That’s why we let them learn to cook. That’s why we let them learn what happens when they ignore your advice and get burned, scraped, bruised and humbled once in a while. That’s why we DO let our kids have a cell phone and a credit card. And that’s why when they overspend or abuse that parent-given privilege they do LOSE that phone or credit card until they learn to use them responsibly.  That’s called learning. And yes, it’s uncomfortable.

The most successful adults are usually the ones who learned something about personal responsibility while growing up. And that means, letting kids learn to do chores when they’re young so they don’t make someone else miserable trying to avoid them later in life! That’s why we want kids to learn how credit cards work because that’s how our world works.

If you want to learn more about the issues of “Overindulgence,” I highly recommend you take a course from Dr. Jean Illsley Clarke, parent educator. Also, buy her latest book called, “How Much is Too Much?” Eileen and I have been through Jean’s trainings and we’re certified to teach her programs so I know that of which I speak! Or rhyme. Or both. We’re not perfect parents but I think our adult kids will tell you that we didn’t often overindulge them and they learned a lot. Sometimes, the hard way, but usually a memorable and an effective way.

I don’t mean to sound like a hard ass but I am trying to make a big point in a little space. Overindulgence is not just a problem for families while their kids are growing up, overindulgence is a big problem for those young adults and it can continue for the rest of their lives. So, give your kids some chores.

Check out Jean’s website at http://www.overindulgence.info/index.html.

Steve Dahl

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The Rock That I’m Under

Apr 13

The Rock I'm Under

When I make a mistake,
I can beat myself up,
I’m upset with myself,
And I feel like a schmuck.
 
But what if I changed that,
And reframed each blunder,
Then I could come out from,
The rock that I’m under.
 
Now…
 
When I make a mistake,
I don’t dwell on my error,
I simply reframe it,
And end my self-terror.
 
I see lessons in life,
Making good out of bad,
Rewriting my story,
Releasing the sad.
 
My history helps shape me,
There are things that I knew,
Weren’t the best to remember,
And it’s those I review.
 
But memories aren’t perfect,
There are things I left out,
So I re-write what’s missing,
‘Till I have no more doubt.
 
No more doubt that I’m worthy,
No more doubt that I’m clear,
No more doubt of my future,
No more doubt why I’m here.
 
So I’ll retrain my brain,
To enjoy what I’m given,
And come out from that rock,
And really start livin’!

 

What part of your past needs a little review? What rock are you living under because of your past? How can you reframe what has happened to see the blessings instead of the pain? Your Happiness Journey is one you get to design. And sometimes, that means redesigning or reframing the past.

 

Image courtesy Wikipedia.com.

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Get Back on Track

Apr 08

The Little Engine That Could from Amaon

“The Little Engine That could,”
Was a story I read,
When I was a kid,
As Dad put me to bed.
 
That was a cute one,
But no longer applies,
To this chaotic world,
And our busiest lives.
 
I’ve got me some stress,
And kids of my own,
I’ve got a tough job,
To pay for this home.
 
But that “Little Engine That could,”
and his up-hill thinking,
Might help me adjust,
When my attitude’s stinking.
 
Maybe I can,
Maybe i will,
Shift these old thoughts,
And head straight up that hill!
 
I think I can, I think I can,
You know what I mean?
Start climbing for more,
And start living my dream!
 
Maybe I’m jaded,
My life’s too insane,
I should re-read that story,
of that cute little train.
 
That big-eyed little train,
In that silly little book,
Still talks to me,
‘Bout the track that I took.
 
So get back on your track,
Add some fire to your plan,
And just think of that engine,
And know that you can!
 
What did you learn as a child that you choose to ignore now? Time to revisit the past?  Graphic courtesy of Amazon.com. You should go buy that book. 
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Cubicle Bullies

Feb 23

Cubicle bully no backgroundWe sit in our cubicles – crowded and close,
Ten of us here and most quite verbose.
Most are quite helpful – one’s rude as can be,
Obnoxious and nasty – when talking to me.
 
So I went to my boss after trying my luck,
Confronting this issue – and stopping this schmuck.
This bullying problem- covert around here,
Is killing my spirit and spreading more fear.
 
But my boss as a leader, or lack of he is,
Ignored my request saying, “Get back to biz!”
“Oh it can’t be that bad, your skin’s way too thin,”
And with that I gave up – and retreated within.
 
Now my cubicle bully – a smirk on her face,
Harasses and teases, at will without grace.
She never gets busted – I’m so uninspired,
I’ll do less ‘round here – might even get fired.
 
I came here to work and answer my calling,
But leadership here is weak and appalling.
With my boss playing chicken, a bully in my face,
I’ll just put in my time… ‘till I’m out of this place!

 

Image Above: Courtesy Elliot Dahl Designs – ElliotDahl.com. Image Below: Nikita Krushchev – Russian Dictator. Courtesy of Wikipedia. Who’s dictating at your company? Who uses fear in your organization to get his/her way?

Isn’t it quite amazing that in this world of high technology, communication training and a deeper understanding of what makes a business successful that we still allow fear and intimidation to fester unchecked in many organizations? Isn’t it mind blowing that bosses, peers, and others can say and do things to other people that are beyond rude and obnoxious and yet they are allowed to get by with it? What is the cost to an organization that allows abusive behaviors to continue? It’s enormous. Beyond dollars and cents, little things like brand, culture, and reputation Nikita_S._Chruschtschoware tarnished.

More importantly, those employees who came into the organization with passion and enthusiasm suddenly find themselves being just the opposite. Biding their time until a better job comes along or worse yet, resigning themselves, collecting a paycheck, and saying the hell with caring about the quality of work, the importance of their position or the well-being of their company.

Bottom line, fear works. Ask Hitler. Ask Castro. Ask Krushchev. Fear motivates people while the the gun is pointed. Drop the weapon for a minute and you better not turn your back. There is little creativity nor loyalty when fear is present. How does your organization foster open and honest communication when their is fear? Does it matter? Having worked in environments where fear and intimidation runs rampant, I have seen the toll on the human spirit, the personal health of employees and the cost to those invested in the success of the company.

Whether it’s an asshole of a boss or an intimidating co-worker, it’s costing the individual, the business and our society a very high price. What price are you willing to pay – whether you’re an employee or the employer? What can you do? What will you do? If you’re an employer, do you really know who uses fear and intimidation to motivate the troops? You might be surprised. Those who use fear are master manipulators and have learned to put on a friendly face as needed.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Steve

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